Your joy matters as much as your childrenâs.
When youâre happy, they thrive.
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An empowering, practical program for mums who love their kids deeply... but feel torn between career and family, overwhelmed with lack of support or exhausted from doing it all yet wondering if youâre doing enough.
Iâll guide you through the toughest parts of motherhood and teach you the real-life tools I use to parent with joy without sacrificing your own needs.
Motherhood is beautiful, but it is also relentless.
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There are moments you love... and moments you donât love. And when the moments you donât love start to weigh on you, itâs hard to enjoy motherhood.Â
You react in ways you didnât want to.
You lose your patience. You say something you regret.Â
And it adds another layer of guilt to the already heavy load.
And deep down, youâre asking:
Why canât I handle this better?
Why is this so hard for me when itâs easier for other mums?Â
Why donât I enjoy this more when I love my child so much?Â
Motherhood brings so much joyâŚ
but it also brings pressure, expectations, and days that feel overwhelming.Â
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Even when youâre doing your best, everything piles up - emotions, relationship, work, the house... some days you feel like youâre just one small thing away from losing it.
You struggle, but because you love your children, you soldier on. You feel worse when you see other mums seeming to juggle everything with ease, and they look good doing it, while youâre still trying to fit into clothes.
Itâs easy to feel like a failure, like youâre still a mess, months or years after giving birth. You wonder: When will I feel like myself again? When will it become easier?
The struggle gets even heavier when youâre lacking emotional support from your partner or family. And then thereâs guilt, because when you stay home, you wrestle with loneliness or burnout. But when you work, you feel torn: you worry youâre not there enough for your kids.
When you want the best for your child, the pressure to be âperfectâ weighs heavily. You wonder after each outburst: How is my temper affecting them?
The truth is, motherhood doesnât have to be this hard. Youâre just missing the tools and support you need to parent with more ease and joy. And the cost of staying stuck is high: it leaves you feeling drained, disconnected, and missing out on the joy you and your children deserve.
Now imagine something different:
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Motherhood being calm, connected, and joyful.
Imagine your child pushing your limits, your emotions rising inside you, and instead of exploding and regretting it later, you know exactly what to do.
You respond with patience instead of reacting emotionally.
And your child mirrors your calm.Â
Imagine the frustration when work and family clash. Instead of drowning in stress or feeling torn, you know how to adjust without losing yourself, your sanity, or your happiness.
Imagine feeling awful for losing your cool, but not having guilt because you know how to turn it around in a way that makes your child feel even closer to you than before.Â
Imagine the times where you question if youâre doing a good enough job, but instead of slipping into anxiety, you know how to turn your doubts into confidence.Â
Imagine your child watching you navigate tough emotions and challenging moments with grace and positivity, and knowing that this is what theyâre learning from you.
And when you go to bed each night, instead of feeling heavy,
You feel good.
You feel proud.
You feel joy.Â
You feel like youâre truly enjoying motherhood.Â
This is the transformation The Joyful Mum was created to give you.
I want to be a Joyful Mum
So how do you be a Joyful MumÂ
even when life feels overwhelming?
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The answer is not doing more. It's learning how to do it with joy.
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If youâre overwhelmed or just trying to enjoy motherhood the best you can, Iâve spent the past year developing strategies that work and I share them all with you in The Joyful Mum.
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Over 6 weeks, Iâll guide you through emotional tools, practical strategies, and mindset shifts so you can:
With these skills and abilities, what youâll gain from The Joyful Mum Program is threefold:
1. A Steadier, Happier You
No one hands out medals for motherhood - although they really should - but we can give ourselves the joy we deserve. You deserve to parent from a place of joy and connection, not from constant stress or anxiety.
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2. A Happier, More Resilient Child
When your kids see you navigating tough moments with positivity and calm, they naturally begin to do the same by mirroring you. Your emotional steadiness becomes the foundation they grow from.
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3. A Stronger, More Connected Relationship
Beyond caring for their needs, we want a close relationship with our kids where they will still turn to us and confide in us even as they grow older, because they feel safe with us knowing we wonât overreact even during hard conversations.
And most of all, you'll leave this course with a deeper, more meaningful understanding of yourself. And that alone will make you a better version of who you already are. Thatâs a gift that benefits your entire family.
What Awaits You in
The Joyful Mum Program
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There are 6 Chapters and Iâve designed each chapter to help you experience the full joy of motherhood, and to positively impact the wellbeing of your children and your whole family. Every chapter includes:
- Core Beliefs: You know those difficult moments where logically you know what you should do, but somehow you just canât follow through? Iâve developed the Core Beliefs that will help you align your emotions with your logic, so that youâre not just aware of the âright thingâ to do, you can actually act on it.Â
- Practical Tools: Iâve always believed that itâs not a matter of intention, itâs a matter of ability. We love our families, and we need to know how to access our own happiness when life gets tough so we can show up as the best version of ourselves. Iâm sharing the most essential tools for your âtoolbox of happinessâ so you can strengthen your ability to turn your intentions into actions.Â
- Guided Practices: I have developed clear, step-by-step examples for each practice, so youâll feel supported as if Iâm right there beside you. These are the same practices I apply in my own life to guide me through challenging times. Through these practices, youâll experience powerful results that will help you create positive changes in your life.
Each chapter is both inspiring and practical, giving you the clarity, know-how, self-awareness and support to access your own joy - and parent with joy - even when life gets tough.
Chapter 1: When You Feel Anxious and Stressed
Chapter 2: When You Donât Feel In Control
Chapter 3: When You Doubt Yourself and Want to Build Back Confidence
Chapter 4: When You Feel Frustrated But Want to Stay Calm
Chapter 5: When You Wrestle With Guilt
Chapter 6: When You Want to Repair and Reconnect
What Others Are Saying
Over the years, many people have shared how the lessons and teachings have made a difference in their lives. Here are some of them:
Tiffany
Singapore
I signed up for coaching with Xandria when I was going through a low period in my life.
I had to confront a lot of my own inner struggles. But over time, I started to find more peace and joy in life. Till today, her lessons hold an important place in my life where I still use the practices in many different areas, especially during trying times. The guidance I had received from Xandria continues to anchor me, and I am deeply grateful for the impact her coaching has had on my journey.
Jiasen Lee
Singapore
My coaching experience was far better than what I would have imagined from the start.
Xandria has helped me change the trajectory of my life. She got me out of the loop I was stuck in by helping me find myself again. You can tell Xandria not only coaches, but she pours her heart entirely into lifting me up and wanting the best for me The sessions addressed all or more than all that I needed to be enlightened and to learn how to practice the skills I need... I think it was one of the best decisions Iâve made, and definitely the best investment in my life thus far!
Jo Ann
Singapore
I graduated from my sessions with Xandria feeling more ready to take on life with joy and curiosity.
This programme will benefit you if you are open and committed to making changes, if you are brave enough to be honest and vulnerable, and if you genuinely want to be happy, always. And if you do, there will be no better coach than Xandria, who will be on the side-lines, cheering you on every step of the way, to help you run your best race, in a way you didnât even know you had in you.
Anca
 Romania
I remember being pretty lost in my early 20's; moving to a new city and starting to discover the world and my own self.
Xandria has helped me ask the right questions through her enlightening videos, her thoughtful book and well-thought program. Xandria rarely gives people a direct answer - she directs them and gives them purpose. That's what I love about her teachings!
I'm a doctor, so imagine how many people she's helping indirectly through training me how to be more empathetic, understanding, more self-aware and happy. I'm so grateful. I only wish she can reach as many people as possible - her world view is invaluable.
Lara
AustraliaÂ
I am one of many people who have benefited from your voice, your empathy, and your commitment to sharing what you have learned. The inspiration I have gained from your teachings continues to influence how I think, how I act, and how I choose to grow.
It is rare to find someone whose work consistently uplifts, educates, and empowers others.
You have been that person for me, someone whose influence has quietly but significantly shaped my personal development.
Thank you, Xandria, for being a steady voice of kindness and clarity all these years.
I appreciate the work you do, the heart you bring into it, and the difference you've made in my life.
I look forward to continuing this journey of learning and growing with your guidance.
Your presence on the internet has been a gift, and I hope you know how deeply valued you are by those who have been inspired by your light.
Xuan Thung Lee
Malaysia
Xandria, your sharings have inspired me to keep going and to stay grounded, especially during my tough times.
I can still recall those days when I was really facing some challenging issues and watching your videos and listening to your sharings really has helped me to pull myself together. In fact, l've read your books many, many times and even now l still refer back to those chapters that l at that very moment needed to read. Because those words and those teachings really help me to put my thoughts and things into perspective and that really helps me to get through all the experiences that life has to offer. I have even wrote down those notes and sentences in a notebook that I keep so that I can refer it back to them whenever I need some doses of courage or comfort to face life challenges
Ria Wong
Australia
I love the inspirational messages that Xandria shares with her audience. Listening to her videos helps to uplift me, educate and change my mindset for the better. I love that Xandria is going through motherhood, which I believe gives her different perspectives in life that will help other mothers too.
Jakub Bohdan
Warsaw, Pol
I just wanted to tell you that you're a beautiful soul and a really smart person. What you talked about so far has moved me deeply and convinced to try and change some bits about my perception of the world. It was extremely helpful as I am recovering from the clinical depression and I must say no therapist has helped me like you have. Much love from Warsaw, Poland. Keep up the good work, I hope you keep on helping the lost souls.
Maria Luz Angeles
Alberta, Canada
Xandria -Â you have had one of the greatest impacts on my growth and my self-love journey. Your words and your wisdom inspired me to become the best version of myself and a kinder, better human being. You taught me to see others with compassion instead of judgment, and for that, I am deeply grateful.
Thank you for all you do
Youâre caring for your child,
but whoâs caring for your relationship?
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In the Joyful Mum Group Coaching, we focus on working on your relationships, especially with your partner.Â
Using the same principles and tools in the program, youâll learn how to apply them to your relationships as I guide you on the challenges you face with your spouse and family.
Youâll learn how to always bring yourself back on the path of positivity, release built-up resentment and respond with very clear intentions instead of reacting from hurt or feelings of unfairness.Â
What often breaks down in relationships after kids isnât love - itâs the accumulation of triggers, resentments and unspoken emotions.
Group coaching is where you can ask me questions and Iâll help you apply the tools specifically to your real-life relationship challenges. And donât worry, Group Coaching is a space where you only share what you feel comfortable with and you will always be listened to and supported with no judgement.
From experience, I can tell you that even if your spouse isnât taking action to change things but you are, things will improve and become easier. Positive shifts are not about whoâs doing more - itâs about whoâs making a conscious effort to grow for their own happiness.
The Joyful Mum Group Coaching helps you strengthen your relationship from the inside out.
Itâs one of the most powerful gifts you can give your relationship and your family, because the cost of emotional distance, unresolved tension, and quiet resentment is very, very high
Choose the path that feels right for you:
The Group Coaching is Hugely Beneficial
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I've had the privilege of helping many create deep change through coaching. 1-on-1 coaching is transformational, but Iâve also always wanted to help create change at a more accessible price.
That's why, for the first time ever, I'm offering Group Coaching as an option.
Alongside all the tools from The Joyful Mum Online Program, youâll get direct guidance from me on how to apply the practices in your specific situation, primarily in your relationship with your spouse and extended family.
If you feel like my videos or books have helped you, the group coaching is going to take you deeper and further, where youâll be able to create change faster.Â
You will leave each session armed with actionable steps you can actually implement that week.Â
By the end of The Joyful Mum Group Coaching Sessions, youâll have a clear roadmap for your next steps and the skills to steer your relationships down the direction that brings the most joy.
If this resonates with you, donât wait to enrol. Group Coaching opens only during specific periods, and once this enrolment window closes, the next season will not open for quite a while. This is a time-limited option so join while you can!
Also, Group Coaching comes with FREE Bonuses
GROUP COACHING EXCLUSIVE BONUS (WORTH $400)
Communication in Relationships Group Session
For group-coaching members only - an exclusive one-hour conflict resolution group session with Xandria. A space to ask questions, gain clarity, and strengthen connection with your partner.Â
Marriage after kids can be hard. This session helps you rebuild communication and resolve conflicts with more ease.
And... bonuses for all members!
Whichever option you choose, online-only, group coaching or 1-on-1, youâll receive these bonuses as part of your program.
FREE BONUS #1
Be Happy Always (ePub)
Xandriaâs celebrated book in a mobile friendly format, so you can carry inspiration and encouragement with you anywhere.Â
Itâs an easy companion to dip into whenever you need a gentle reset or a boost of perspective.
FREE BONUS #2
The Happiness Playbook (PDF)
Xandriaâs practical, actionable guide filled with simple 'quick wins' you can use every day to lift your mood and steady your mindset. It helps you recognise self-sabotage, practise acceptance and build the kind of internal motivation that helps you pursue your goals without pressure, guilt or negative feelings.
Youâll Feel the Difference - Guaranteed
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Try the program, go through the lessons, and apply the tools. If you feel that it hasnât helped you at all, simply email us at [email protected] within 30 days and share your experience. Weâll refund you in full for the program cost.
For bundles that include coaching, weâll refund the program portion of your purchase.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
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Your joy becomes your children's happiness.
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I canât wait for you to experience The Joyful Mum Program. And if youâre joining group coaching, Iâm so excited to support you through every step of this journey.
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Life is beautiful because to live is to learn, and thereâs no better motivation to grow intentionally than being a mother. When we are happy, our kids thrive. Begin your Joyful Mum journey today.
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